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Dear Duana, I’ve gotten involved with three women I met online in the last year, only to find they were all still married. It makes a lot of sense when you see it from their side.* People need love, or at least some contact.
I had asked each of them whether their divorce was final before meeting in person, and they all said yes! Many studies confirm that isolation doesn’t just make us miserable, it can literally make us ill.
Furthermore, it is disingenious for the other party to be dating someone who regards their current legal bond so lightly. For an in depth and extremely conservative study on this subject see the book "The Divorce Myth", by J. Perhaps in an effort to avoid legalism, we have lost perspective on the fact that God does know best, and His ways are always best. Maybe a life of celibacy for the divorcee who simply stays close to Jesus is much better for them than the possibility of making the same mistakes over again in a subsequent marriage.) Perhaps we have come to the place in American Christianity where we think that because the scriptures state clearly that God is love, we don't have to reckon with His other attributes, such as wisdom, justice, etc. As to responsibilities of the church in regards to confrontation and accountability, the scriptures are clear (1 Tim. Confrontation must always be done with a view toward restoration of the repentant. Seek wisdom from your church leadership, if possible. The answer might be that in the case of "dating" there is no evidence of sexual misconduct and therefore no clear point of sin to confront.
In an even more conservative perspective, many would say that even after the divorce, remarriage may not be a legitimate option. I personally think that anyone who is currently legally married and yet is "dating" while awaiting divorce proceedings, is undermining whatever is left of their marriage and showing no regard for the possibility of a future reconciliation.
In a written ruling, Mr Justice Mostyn said dating before divorce was a “fly in the ointment” for family court judges asked to decide how much money husbands should give wives following marriage break-ups.
Both in their 40s, the couple concerned met in 1999 and lived together with an adopted child.
Do you think this is correct or are people free to date during the divorce process?Should I have one coffee date and see what I think? Eventually, we told them, and about 2 years later our divorce was final…..[He also] knew that it would take me time to re-enter the workforce after having been a stay at home mom to our children, and that after we were divorced I would have no health insurance… ) First off, why are many people so eager to date before they’re divorced—sometimes to the point of hiding their still-married status?Even if you and your spouse are separated, dating before your marriage is dissolved can be used to help prove marital misconduct during your marriage.
It can look like you have questionable morals, even if no misconduct occurred during the marriage.It is wise to hold off on the dating scene until after your divorce is final.